Embracing aging and transformation with Louise
Louise was a caregiver for her husband living with Alzheimer's and supported him until his death. She navigated through her journey as a former caregiver and proudly wishes to share her story to inspire others going through similar paths. Louise is 86 years old and believes aging is a privilege. She wishes to be a model to show that it is never too late to create your life. Today, she continues her journey by volunteering with the elderly.
How did caregiving come into your life?
“I felt like superwoman, capable of doing everything. Today, I look back on my journey and realize that without the Groupe des aidants du Sud-Ouest (GASO), I wouldn't have been able to care for my husband until the end. Through my grief, I realized that I can take care of myself while helping others. I am managing my grief well even though it doesn't stop me from thinking a lot about my husband. My grieving process was significantly marked and softened by the encounters I made in GASO's support group for bearevement. I was truly listened to, and I think this space helped me discover who I really was. If I were asked to do it all over again, I would choose the same path. Now, I feel grown and proud of it. I have made lifelong friends. Honestly, grief brought me out of my shell. I've been able to create a better life by forming reciprocal connections with other grieving people.”What strengths and tools help you get through the tougher moments of your journey?
“Taking care of myself when it's more difficult. I keep practicing saying no. Being aware of my emotions and feelings is essential to better help others. I have also accepted that I can help others, but I must also accept the help offered to me, even if it's hard to receive.”What lessons have you learned from being a caregiver?
“I realized that you can't do everything in life, and it's hard to accept that because you believe you're capable of anything. I've learned and continue to learn to set boundaries for myself. I now consider this action as caring. I am able to express what I truly feel. It took me some time before joining GASO, but I don't regret it at all. I wanted to do everything, and I learned to lower my expectations of myself. I live more peacefully by being in touch with others.”What tools or resources help you in your journey?
“What has helped me a lot is participating in groups at GASO, particularly zootherapy. I was able to gain clarity and realized I could do things I didn't believe I could when I lacked self-confidence. I felt strong in the group because I realized I am capable of talking and helping others with my life experience. I cried and got to know myself better. Nurturing this introspection has helped me in my entire personal life. Having the space to be who we are was a key element for me. I will never forget the warm welcome from GASO.”What would you say to someone starting a caregiving journey?
“Taking the first step toward seeking help is the hard part. We all have the right to need help. We are not alone.”